In August, when Alexia took a picture of herself in a bar in Boston and posted it on Instagram, indicating the location, she did not expect that she would meet a beautiful stranger.
The 30-year-old businessman from Connecticut, who declined to give his last name, was at the bachelorette party when he posted the selfie.
Later that night, a young real estate agent looking at pictures from a bar bumped into her image. He told her she was beautiful and proposed to her.
It was the first time he had been touched like this. She’s been finding dates on Hinge and Bumble for years, but has grown tired of using those platforms.
“There’s a lot of pressure on fellowship applications,” Alexia told the Post. “It’s like another job — I’m just filling out applications for these people [and] same story.”
His first meeting with the Boston man was “great”, but did not progress. There is no reason. In the past few months, five men have proposed to her on Instagram, after they saw her photos because she tagged bars and restaurants they liked. Although she was initially attracted to this way of meeting men, she has found that she prefers requests for a rate.
“You see that you want the same thing, and they see what you say right off the bat. It’s not fake,” he said. “You have your family and friends there and I think it’s better. .”
Young singles are tired of old dating apps like Tinder, which saw downloads drop by 5% in 2021, according to the Financial Times. They’re looking for new ways to find dates online, and Instagram, with its 1 billion active users, is a simple, easy way.
Victoria Alario, a 27-year-old from Hoboken, calls Instagram a “dating hack” and sees it as both old and new.
“It’s like the online version of meeting someone on your favorite site because it’s bookmarked [there]”, the content creator told the Post.
Last month, he posted a story on TikTok about the Instagram guy that got almost 400,000 views. Her students are quick to agree that gram is good for finding love.
“Instagram is the best dating app. It’s so smart,” said one commenter, who said they met their partner this way.
And it’s not just about men approaching photogenic women.
Alario looked at selected photos of the restaurant he planned to visit, looking for delicious food photos. Then, he saw a type of food he liked: a handsome man pointed him to a restaurant. She liked her photo and soon received a follow request and text from the man.
“It turned out we were alive [sort of] border with each other and chat,” he said, adding that they exchanged numbers and made plans for the meeting. “It’s very easy, it’s easy to start talking.”
Alario admitted that it takes a lot of courage to approach people like this, but he said it’s also reassuring about common interests — and it’s a place where you’re ready for a first date.
“It’s kind of just taking the defender and making it [online dating] it’s a lot easier,” Alario agreed. “We’re all active on social media so if you’re going to use it, use it to your advantage.”